To Me In A Few Days Or So (eighteenth letter)

Dear Us,


I recently came across a list of conditions devised by Albert Einstein for his wife.  He put them to her as they negotiated the continuation of their eleven-year-old marriage.  Before long I found myself wondering how you and I have always been together, despite our separation in time, without any agreement of any kind concerning our relations with one another, and how we will always, most likely, be together, until an end or some such thing, an event that remains, for now, unknowable to either of us, a final shebang or terminus in which the future and past fuse irrevocably with the present.

Since I’ve thought about all of this before you (as I always do), I feel it’s only fair of me to insist we apply these recently discovered conditions upon our own ongoing push towards a collision with the collapse of time, with Death, or some other such final phenomena in which we cease to be in relation, no longer caring or in any way needing to be concerned about (or, for that matter, circumstantially aware of) what either of us might glean or be influenced by in regards to the other.

A.  You will make sure:

    1. that my clothes and laundry are kept in good order;
    2. that I will receive three meals regularly in my room;
    3. that my bedroom and study are kept neat, and especially that my desk is left for my use only.

B.  You will renounce all personal relations with me insofar as they are not completely necessary for social reasons.  Specifically, you will forego:

    1. my sitting at home with you;
    2. my going out or travelling with you.

C.  You will obey the following points in your relations with me:

    1. you will not expect any intimacy from me, nor will you reproach me in any way;
    2. you will stop talking to me if I request it;
    3. you will leave my bedroom or study immediately without protest if I request it.

D.  You will undertake not to belittle me in front of us, either through words or behavior.

I have no means of policing your adherence to these conditions as you’re always at least two or three days ahead of me, but I’m still confident you’ll do the right thing from here on in.  We can’t obstruct what we’ve done to the other in the end.  Please remember this in our future present.



You Now, i.e., Us.